Ironically I have been a mentor to many of my trainees and helped them come out of negative thinking and motivated them but some how could not help myself. Don’t think of it like getting even in a mean way but more like balancing your karma so that you can both be free. I love him and I want to find away. etc. You can relax a bit thinking that all of our actions create karma, whether good or bad, so yes, even though you created karma, don’t worry. I am excited to meet you and I … She told me I am her twinflame and I bought it. Your email address will not be published. He was never that into me. I, many times thought of ratting him out, but I knew that was just drama and would give me bad karma. It hurts. Asking in person or contacting the person to ask for forgiveness, Asking for forgiveness in your heart, but really truly feeling sorry about it first so you mean it. I hope Karma gets back to him. I didn’t think someone who truly was in love with me could bear lying to me so much. Your email address will not be published. When you read my own story of karma in a romantic relationship, you will see that my heart was broken in almost the exact same way that I broke someone else’s heart more than 10 years before and I had to go through the same heartache as I had caused. It is also super important to protect yourself. Thanks for sharing your story. Later in that school year, we somehow got back together again. Let’s forget it. I can’t live without him. I am feeling the burden of being in a relationship with someone no longer love.so end that relationship but without respect.so I have experienced karma very badly.next person I met was not disciplined.so I wanted to end the relationship.both relationship I talked via messages only.this person want to marry me.but I have no feelings for him.I have rejected second person in my life.I have broken his heart because people in our society will think “i am bad”. He’s much older than me and pretty set in his ways and seemingly unwilling to change much or meet me half way. You do not want to do anything illegal. He proposed me after a while and I told him I don’t want to be in a relationship I just like you and wanted to be just friends. But the thing is: That college guy I was in love with, I see him in my dreams sometimes and it haunts me. It was love at first sight. It’s not comfortable for anyone to witness this. He used to say love you to me. When that time comes, you’ll be able to fully appreciate your past heartbreaks and say thanks for breaking my heart. We met online and instantly clicked. I find it serendipitous, (my favorite word), that my ex-fiancé found me on Facebook and we reconnected just last night. Who has the right to hurt me/ us like that? It is in the past. Basically, she has guilt about what she did to you. This goes back to the original story I shared about karma in relationships with my ex-boyfriend. You’re so right that if you don’t let it go, it will cause health issues or make you stronger. This time, I AM him. yes, there is Karma involved in your situation but if you didn’t genuinely have feelings for these people then you were in fact HONEST with YOURSELF by rejecting them. Why? The question here is even though I loved this second guy for one half year very truly and unconditionally, helped him in his difficulty times got intimated twice but he cheated on me very badly he abused me telling I was an option to him he got better girl than me in everything so he moved on, will this second guy face his KARMA for cheating on me or karma just sent him in my life t o pay back for my past karma for cheating on that first guy ??? You are simply doing your job, which is to protect yourself. You pick fights, you nitpick, you criticize them to their face or behind their back, or you end up cheating on them, just to name a few. Suddenly I got him on tik toke, other social site which I don’t have accounts but I caught him that he was flirting with other girls, I asked him what is this? I met him and asked whether it’s true? I hope I’ll be getting feedback from your side.thank you. The second time was a case study that I studied in a Social Work class in University where a family was broken up by a husband having an affair with his sister-in-law. I have messaged ex-boyfriends asking for forgiveness and also old friends who I knew I had hurt and it went both ways as I mentioned above. He took me to SHREE AMBAJI TEMPLE PUT SINDOOR ON MY MANG, HE TOOK ME TO HIS KULDEVI MA TEMPLE AND PUT SINDOOR TO ME, HAD KASAM OF SHIV GOD THAT HE WILL NOT MARRIY ANY ONE APART FROM ME, WAIT FOR ME LONG LIFE. for me the feeling was woooow…. Hi Amber, it’s natural to react this way. The reason he treated you like this and the Karmic consequences might be that he has already in HIS PAST been rejected and not loved back the same as he did to you. We ignored each other for a week or so then came down to see me as we are working together. But I m married. After that night he started ignoring me. There was a guy who played with my feelings for around half a year while he was seeing someone else. So I felt like he was just playing with my feelings from the beginning. I try to understand a few things, maybe you can give me explanation or answers on my questions. You made them ache. I would say it was bad karma, good for a wake up call, and helps me better understand myself, and meaning. And think about her. ... be the reason why his family might break but he refused, he begged me to stay, saying that I will destroy him, I will break him so I stated with him. It turned out she was doing the same with another guy also. He kissed you with the same surreal brilliance that captivated you so deeply. And so I decided to gift her my enlightenment, it didn’t happen 100% but I really wanted her to see her “betrayal” wound when she would show / post the recording. I have tried this method before and I know it works. It could also be that this person had broken your heart in a past life and you are simply, karmically, getting even. please do address all my questions. If anything, usually things work out great for them. But before 10days ago you said to me until not going to marry any lady because I loved u and can’t leave u. 2. I told him I love him and showed him the exact opposite. He said it’s the truth. He started of the conversation by saying, you are a lil bit weird with your text today? Learn how your comment data is processed. Her response was to defame my character at the work with constant put downs like calling me fake. All the best! How can someone you thought was your soulmate turn out to be the worst person in your life? I think this applies to our Karma as well. But our parents don’t know that we got married already and were staying together. So he intentionally create an illegal relationship between me and one of our friends. Wow this post makes 100% sense ex broke up with me Bc he said we weren’t a good match out of no where he started talking to someone same day of break up I thought would be not his type but apparently not ironically the girl shares the same name as my best friend who is secretly in love with me (talk about karma) long story short my ex was an athlete broke up with me day he signed contract for his next match said we weren’t a good match (ohh it stung) then karma comes and breaks his foot and now he doesn’t have a match at all oh karma ….. he obv couldn’t give up his player ways but boy oh boy did karma come and now with this social distancing looks like he won’t be able to get any more tricks from up his sleeve to come out and play ! During vacation he requested me again and again and almost everyday to please just try once and say Yes. Every action has a reaction. I’m so sorry that you’re suffering. I was in a relationship with a man, he broke up with me and got married to a girl richher than me. I have to leave him on his own situation which he deserves.. So, I once dated a guy. Her actions tell me that she’s not quite examining herself yet. Maybe he tried to reach my cellphone but he never trued hard enough. But I ignored it. he helped me to do some readings,and after the readings … I’m trying to not have a heart attack over it because I had spent so much time nursing my own pain. Be grateful for each new day you have together as a couple and take it day by day. She fed from me every single day, specially through sex and dreams. She planned it and practiced a night before on her dreams. If you’re wondering whether you get bad karma for breaking someone’s heart, the short answer is yes, you do. Why does she check up on me after 3 years, while she still with that other guy she dumped me for? It’s been 3 years now and still it’s happening? Then he stopped it. Show him the love you want for him—a love that is pure, passionate, and honorable to both him, and you. I’ll keep you happy and so on. Source said, if you show her love right now you’re going to have the absolutely best relationship of your entire life. She said she was totally in love with me and I became emotionally attached. n children. My definition of a spiritual person is someone who is willing to look at themselves and examine their own actions before pointing a finger at someone else, no matter what religion they belong to. It will keep you from making the same mistakes over and o again. I remember when we were younger people always said we looked good together. I can’t figure out where and why am I lagging behind in my matrimonial life (I am single, NRI and chartered accountant by profession). Dear Jayendra, I’m so sorry that you are feeling so hurt by her. It would be worse to string him along. Now his parents know about this girl and have no problem with their relationship. Sometimes you have to make the most painful sacrifices. He said he liked me, I didn’t say it back until he had already squashed those feelings for me. Your actions never matched your words and you just moved on like a pro. And the so called do good to others n good happens to u! Let karma do her job. It’s a horrible and heavy feeling. As I mentioned in the blog post, there are two ways to do this: 2. Maybe she is used to being cheated on too? Not that she was cheating on me also even though that hurt badly but because she tried to ruin my career when I had young children and a mortgage after claiming to be my best friend and soulmate literally 48hrs before turning on me fir contacting the other guy. All I found in this relationship is mysterious untold heartbroken sorrow. I’ve been there too. He was happily married to that girl. 2 yr bk an ofc fling started as a physical attraction but then we came very very close fulfilling eachother emotionally n spiritually also. The rule of karma goes like this: You get what you give. I can’t believe what he did to you and so heartlessly. If he had this issue he should have discussed this mater in September before the engagement. And what you said about letting him be Happy no matter whether it’s with you or someone else… that’s incredible and shows your maturity. ... You didn’t just break my heart; you broke our future. (Note I am not a gold digger, but if I am gifted something way below than the adhered standard, it means when it comes to taking they want a lot, but when it comes to giving they wnt to give peanuts). 3 years ago, I had a relationship with a girl who is a Hindu. (Name of the Person that caused the heart-break), I give you and my love to you back to nature as I’ve given the verbena. Be strong about it and be firm about it. Probably the biggest. Working... Subscribed Unsubscribe. But I can feel some time . Bt my childhood ex motivated me to focus nd proposed me saying that he loves me a lot. Why? Next thing I get a restraining order, banning me from my work place. —Surgeo Bell. We even exchanged food. No matter how you feel about your breakup and the relationship you had before it broke up, let me tell you something. The mind appeared. I mean I have never felt this way about anyone and I was married for 28 yrs. In terms of the first guy facing his karma or not, who knows. I loved and most importantly trusted him so blindly that he would never leave me.I gave him unconditional love but i dint know that he came with conditions. After two months I called him when I got to know his grandmother died confronted him but to my surprise he blamed me for everything. The man i wanted to marry left me 3 months to our wedding ceremony and my life was upside down.he was with me for 4 years and i really love him so much..he left me for another woman with no reasons..when i called him, he never picked up my calls and he don’t want to see me around him…so,when i told the man what happened. Maybe he tried to reach my cellphone but he never trued hard enough. he and we all together …. I know karma works very strongly as I have experienced it. You did what you did and that’s OK. Think of it like an equation that needs to be balanced out on both sides. but he acted as if nothing was wrong. I know it feels impossible right now but can you find a place in your heart to just say “thank you for making it easier for me to let you go”? First time I made gf in my life and she completely broked me… Why me? This whole thing is so off. even then I faced karma very badly for this and experienced his pain now I Asked sorry to him as well by heart as well by contacting his friend. It made my day! You just have to be open to see the signs that it’s working. But willing to accept him as a friend regardless of the pai written all over my face. But again, we broke up at the end of the year. You have a good reason for it like not being into the other person as much as they are into you, outgrowing the other person, or another valid reason. Yes by saying mean things to him there’s a chance you created some karma for yourself, but the thing is that if what you were saying is not really true, then the only person who will suffer from saying those things as you, not really him. At least you saw it, I guess. I long to feel your lips on mine And once again my "sun" will shine. Think about it. I seldom ask myself, what wrong did I do in my previous birth, which resulted to these problems. Thanks so much for sharing your story… It’s really touching. We just came back from a 10-day silence and meditation course!! See Also: The Role of Karma in Your Relationships Also he was demanding more time from me to talk on cellphone because he was my senior and was not in the college now. After college he was very busy but used to call me to just say hi hello, do all the dirty talking and then bye take care I am busy. I also had the same problem. Once we were in university, suddenly I was exposed to so many new people, new social circles, and met new interesting guys who didn’t just fit into the jock or nerd category but were much more interesting and multidimensional. I don’t know why this sort of thing is so common. But every time she blocks me again, and once in a while she check up on me again!? Even if it’s years later. The guy and his dad asked my dad for INR 8 lakhs to arrange my spouse visa for Australia. If you have his email address, sign him up to receive spam. Instead think of how you accepted him when he first came to you. I know karma works very strongly as I have experienced it. I also know that if he chose to go his own way tomorrow it would hurt me because I genuinely do love him but i would allow it because I would rather him be Happy with someone else than not be Happy with me. 2. I was there when he wanted to cry and was feeling alone. When the virus hit I panicked I guess and took a pause. But this second guy is very much happy with his new girl i am not jelous about them, But felt bad that he does not even wish me good he just now my life is perfect you see your life I am not bothered about your depression and he did not even think about the times when I was there by his side when he needed any help so selfishly without having 1% guilt also he is having fun there but I am suffering suffering keep on suffering from depression. Not Christian. He was not guilty at all. I am positive there is a lot of couple Karma as well as family Karma in the situation. I asked for a break up which he doesn’t want to. I understand.. but…. Sign him up for spam email. -Love, Ritu, Thank you So much for your reply Ritu But after few months of accepting him i felt guilty for what im doing and said him to stop this and stay as good friends. After this meditation, I felt relieved from this burden I had been carrying around for 4 years and was finally able to let go and be free from that guilt. We used to see each other from afar daily. Most of us are confused when it comes to dating, you are not alone in that. I literally spent the whole relationship being an ascended master and personal healer for her, I didn’t judge her, I loved her unconditionally even though she was 100% driven by ego…. Is this my Karma for cheating on my wife at the end of my marriage? Why i contacted him? And you can be free. I was adjusting in my marriage life, still in my mind their was one question for him why did he ditched me? But if you no longer love the person, you have to do what is right for both of you in the relationship. I couldn’t sleep at nights. Because of the heaviness of the situation, it is likely that you are carrying on Karma from a past life and you owed him something and he owed you something. Everyone says no-no, the same will happen… they say that I would just learn more lessons but I don’t want to learn more lessons like that, just from love! n rejected me. Please read threw it and reply me.. But It is so difficult, painful to experience it yourself. When couples break up, then avoid all contact to make things easier to move on, but when your ex is clingy to you still, you become incapable of moving on which only breaks your heart more. We realised they are miser. I have asked this countless times after getting dumped in High School and then... Ritu is a writer, who has been blogging about self-development since 2007. The quickest way out of this is by asking for forgiveness. After Breaking Up With Someone You Love, You Might Want To Make Him Regret Dumping You So You Can (hopefully) Get Back Together. I don’t know why when I came back to college I said Okay. It will return the good and the bad back to you equally. Since time was passing by and I was not reacting, she SOMEHOW took some (energetic) snakes out of her head, like Medusa. So that he could move on because he wanted to be my friemd and I know that could never happen. Like Like. Hes been a dick to me for years. Thanks. But she keeps checkin up on me, through her social media account/ or from her family ones. Instead of doing someone wrong and not having to pay for it till your next life or next incarnation, in this age, you pay in one lifetime for most things. After a while I met this guy in college, same year student as me who approached me and asked for friendship. “You will never understand the damage you did to someone else until the same is done to you.”. I was shocked and was shattered and broken. Frankly he is far more good to his ex who left him within a month of breakup and started dating someone else n got married to him. My friend whom I said I was loving to break up with my ex started moving closely and used to heal me as I broke. It fucking hurts. yea my ex cold heartedly cheated on me twice n both times left me for different men. Maybe the relationship just doesn’t work for you anymore. Reasonably happy with a love marriage of 10yr. Now I want to hear from you. Do Karma give punishment to him? Which karma would be worse. I read everything and get it. He is clearly not the right one for you. Do all the small heartbreaks he caused me throughout high-school justify the big one I caused him in university? Some girl will promise to marry him and then leave him. He could have simply said that instead of ignoring me. I did it because of a completely different reason and therefore the karma is unrelated to the little breakups. That’s just how karma works. If you’ve read the book Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert, you will know that she had used this method when resolving her conflict with her ex-husband, and according to the book, it worked. I was struggling with this so much that I even had a cranio-sacral therapy session to deal with my feelings. Everything was exactly the same we knew we had been killing the other life after life… And while I had all the opportunities to break that karma during that day, I didn’t. Stand up to him and tell him he is never allowed to speak to you like that ever again. The first step is to forgive yourself, say to yourself, ‘ I messed up but I am stronger than my mistake’. i really love her a lot and for being a very loyal to her but he brole me and till now i am suffering with my emotion…from the day i know every thing about her…she cheats me dil dukhta h mera aaj bhi bhot rona bhi aata h apne aap ko thappar maar kar move on karna sikha raha hu duur rehta hu ab usse but fir bhi kya meri life pehle jesi happy nhi ho skti h but ab mujhe apni happy life m.woh cheater nhi chahiye. A relationship never happened and it’s like we are ghosting each other. 6 years back, I met a guy (it was an arranged marriage meetup in India), I liked the guy but he and his parents found me dark (in reality the guy was darker than me). Will karma make him pay for breaking my heart? But his plan didn’t go well as I got fits due to his weird behaviour. eval(ez_write_tag([[250,250],'thelifester_com-banner-1','ezslot_6',104,'0','0'])); I think that this happens because humans are experiential learners. Karma in relationships allows that to happen a little sooner. 789. He used to talk to me after meeting on phone too, whole night. They did the “dirty” thing, not you. The only reason I can think of for why you had to suffer twice is because you didn’t see his true colours the first time around. I feel guilty because there is a “signal” and I’m like omg that is me, don’t hold onto that. Dear Anitha, I am feeling the burden of being in a relationship with someone I no longer If you start taking care of your wife and start treating her like the number one most important thing in your relationship, like I mentioned in this post: https://thelifester.com/coronavirus-marriage-relationships-and-karma/ then I guarantee that you’ll feel lighter. I can’t tolerate this pain.. His mother was crying and seeking help from me, bcoz she knows I am the first girl for him. It might take some time until it comes back to you and you will get the chance to experience it from the other side. I truly beat myself up for it for awhile, but I realized it was for the best. I’ll work on the meditation exercise tonight. Did you ever break someone’s heart and pay for it later on in life? She still seems to be happy with him since they are in a relationship 3 years ago. But after two weeks, I started feeling like he was ignoring me and he started leaving my texts on read and delivered for hours, started lying a little bit, and started being very rude with me. Else it seems I’m just wasting a womans time. For me, it took 10 years but eventually I had the chance to experience what I did to my ex, first hand. We are not god and we are not perfect. My ex raped my soul during break up. Thanks for sharing. Why? There are two things I can suggest: So he alone gone hometown, suddenly started avoiding me, and when I am calling him, he started abusing me and asked me to leave him as his parents not accepting for our marriage. I didn’t talk to him after that for a while. So your Karma is minimal. Who has the right to hurt me/ us like that? Yes you might damage him a little bit with your hurtful words, but you’re the one who’s gonna end up regretting, which is what’s happening. I love this one quote about cheaters – “If your man is a cheater, let the other girl keep him. And so I thought I had no time…. With him unwilling to move and the type of work I do I would have been driving almost 6 hrs every day to and from work.